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The truth is, no one teaches you how to succeed after law school.

Sure, they show you how to write a brief, argue a motion, and memorize obscure rules of evidence. But when it comes to actually building a career, one that supports your life, not swallows it whole? Crickets.

You’re not alone if you’re a few years into your practice and already feeling like this wasn’t what you signed up for. You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. But it’s not clicking. You feel stuck. You question your choices. And if you’re being honest with yourself, you might even be wondering if all that student debt was worth it.

I’ve been there.

What no one tells you…

When I first started practicing, I thought the path to success was working harder than everyone else. Longer hours, more cases, more grind. I was drowning—and I didn’t even realize it.

Here’s what changed everything:
I stopped trying to out-hustle the world, and I started building relationships instead.

And not just “networking” (you can keep the lukewarm Zoom happy hours and awkward business card swaps).
I’m talking about real, human connection. The kind that makes people say, “That’s my lawyer.”

Why hustle isn’t enough

The legal profession glorifies overwork. But overwork doesn’t scale. Relationships do.

Clients don’t stay with you because you’re the smartest lawyer in the room.
They stay because you called them back. Because you remembered their kid’s name. Because you treated them like a person, not a case file.

You can be brilliant, and still lose business if no one feels seen by you. I’ve watched countless lawyers burn out because they were chasing prestige, not people.

What actually works

Want to grow your practice, get better clients, and start feeling alive in your career again? Start here:

Pick up the damn phone.
I once posted a picture with that caption, and it blew up. Why? Because responsiveness is rare and powerful. Call your clients. Call your referral partners. Talk like a human. It’s that simple.

Create a “relationship routine.”
I opened a business account at my local pizza place. Every time I take someone there, I put it on my account. It says, I’ve got you. It says, You matter.

Show up where your people are.
Read what your clients read. Watch what they’re watching. Understand their world. When I started reading local newspapers again, I knew what mattered to the people I was serving. And they noticed.

The shift that makes everything easier

If you’re stuck, it’s probably not a skill issue.
It’s a connection issue.

You don’t need to reinvent yourself. You don’t need to fake it or spend 10 grand on SEO. You just need to do the one thing nobody ever taught you how to do:

Be a real person in a world full of talking heads.

And if that sounds like a relief? Good. Because it is.

This isn’t fluff. It’s strategy.
And when you shift from grinding alone to growing through relationships, you’ll finally feel the momentum you’ve been chasing.

Want to go deeper?

This is exactly what I break down in my book Who’s in the Waiting Room?™ For Personal Injury Lawyers That Refuse to Blend In

If this resonated, I’ve got plenty more to share. In fact, I’m doing it right now over on Instagram – join me!

Because the truth is, success doesn’t come from shouting the loudest. It comes from being remembered, for all the right reasons.